Saturday, January 29, 2011

How The Secret Worked This Past Week

In my previous post I noted that the more specific I am about what I want the faster it comes. It also comes quicker if I am positive it will come to me, but I don't hold onto it tightly.

My day job is teaching elementary school. When my back started hurting from carrying my purse, coffee carafe, and bag filled with papers to grade, I started pulling a crate on wheels from my car to the classroom Monday thru Friday. I have had this crate for over a decade and it was falling apart. I had put off purchasing a new one because I wasn't positive what I wanted. My crate was too big and had to placed on the passenger seat of my car.

Early this past week, I noticed a teacher friend had a crate half the size of mine. I liked that. It wasn't exactly what I wanted, but it was a step in the right direction. I would prefer something....prettier. She thought her sister found it at a local office supply store. I couldn't find it, but passing a Michael's craft store I thought they would have something that might work. Years ago I found a perfect container on wheels for holding my books for signings at another craft store. Unfortunately it was $50 and I had no intention of spending that much money. I really didn't want to spend more than $30, which would have been the price of a replacement crate.

Inside Michaels I "just happened" to start a conversation with a sales associate who told me they had a teacher discount. (You will learn with The Secret there are no coincidences. This person was sent in my path to help me save money.) I saw a pink cloth covered scrap booking tote for about $45. Too expensive. On the very last isle of the store, I found the perfect tote. It is exactly the size I wanted, covered with a black cloth with a "pretty" white design. With my teacher discount it cost me about $25, which is less than a replacement crate would have cost. Oh, and did I tell you there was only one left? On Friday, I placed my coffee carafe and purse inside, along with my teaching tools and felt wonderful.

So...if you are interested in testing this out, pick one thing you want. Be positive you will get it. Narrow down
the details and see if it works for you too.

Friday, January 28, 2011

How The Secret Works

After listening to the audio CDs of The Secret and its sequel The Power, plus books by Mike Dooley, my understanding of The Secret is you put yourself into a state of gratitude; loving all of the good in your life. You appreciate what you have and more of what you want will come to you. Only better.

In The Secret, the speakers recommend creating a vision board. You glue onto it pictures of what you want in your life. Mike Dooley says you can just ask to be happy and the universe/God (Whatever your spiritual belief may be) will give you what you need to be happy.

Once you say what you are grateful for and you know what you want, then you say what you want as if you already have it. For example, I can say, "I am so grateful I am a New York Times writer." At some point in the day you should visualize your life as if you already have what you want. Act as if you already have what you want. I would need to write more. If it is a new love you want, then make room in your closet for that person. Sleep on one side of the bed instead of the middle. Imagine what you would do during the day with your significant other. It is important to feel good about you want, to have love for it, but not to hold onto it so tight that you actually push it away. Have faith you will get what you want.

I found that is was difficult for me to believe that I could get the big things I want so I started out small. I have found that when I am about positive about the details of what I want it comes to me faster. And what comes to me often feels magical.

One example of the magic: Every time I went into an office supply store I would search for the perfect organizer. I wanted a small calendar with big date squares and an area to store cards, change etc. It also needed to have a burgundy leather case. One day I spent over an hour looking at everything in the store. Finally, I decided I could just make what I wanted by putting a calendar, dividers, paper, and business card holders into a binder. Once I knew exactly what I wanted, twenty seconds later I found a leather, burgundy binder on top of a set of black ones. There was no other one like it in the store. There wasn't even a spot for it. And I know it wasn't there a few minutes before because anything burgundy stands out to me. I had to ask a sales associate to scan the bar-code to find out how much it was. It was like if fell from the heavens.

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

How I REALLY, REALLY Know The Secret Works

The biggest change in my life came about because of The Secret.

Growing up I had always wanted the nuclear family. When I got divorced I figured that was a lost dream. When my daughter was young I decided I wouldn't date until she graduated from college. For over a decade I was closed up. I had friends and discovered my writing, but I never let a man close. I never considered replacing that dream with another one because I was too scared.

About two and half years ago, I realized my daughter would soon graduate from college. I knew it was my time to live my life for me. I had also seen The Secret on DVD and knew the possibilities were endless. Overnight I was happier than I had ever been. My friends noticed the difference and commented. They also waited to see if this change would stick and it has.

At that time, I knew that it was my time to be truly happy. It was also my time for that one big true love. I had no doubts that God/The Universe would send me the right man for me. I was ready. Almost every day for two years I said, "I have a man who loves and adores me." I also knew it would be a man from my past. According to The Secret, you say what you want as if you already have it.

Thanks to Facebook, several old flames came back into my life. They are all wonderful people, but one was meant to be. The man who truly loves and adores and tells me often. He knew what he wanted and went after me. No doubts. I remember telling a friend in college that he was the right man at the wrong time. Now he is the right man at the right time and we are blissfully happy together. I call him my Irish Charmer.

The only thing better than writing romance novels is living one.

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

How I Know The Secret Really Works

Several years ago, a writing friend showed the DVD of The Secret to those of us who were interested. I watched because she was a freind. I had never heard of The Secret. I didn't know Oprah had discussed the Power of Attraction. I just knew it explained how I got my condo about eleven years ago.

When I decided to move, I knew I wanted to live in an area close to another friend. It was an upscale area so I could only afford a condo. That suited my needs because I avoid yardwork like the plague. I found the perfect location. Unfortunately, the builder had gone under and they were not for sale. At least not until the complex was sold at auction. But no one knew when that might be. My realtor couldn't find any information.

In the meantime, I put my house up for sale. I wanted to be ready. My first potential sale was contigent on the buyer selling her home. Her buyer disappeared the day of closing so our sale fell through. I was devastated. A few months later another buyer came along, but she wanted me to rent back my home until the end of January. I thought it was odd, but agreed. Afterall, during those four or so months I was trying to sell my house, no one knew when the condo complex would open.

I was so determined to buy this condo, that I spoke to the apartment manager across the street about renting. This way I would be close to where I wanted to live.

On the day I was going to sign the lease for the apartment, the condos opened up. I noticed flags flying out front. It just happened to be the first day the new owner of the condo complex had opened its door for potential buyers to view the model homes. But....they didn't have the right paperwork to sell yet.

I told them I wanted to buy, but I had to move out of my house before the end of the month so I would have to sign a six month lease with the aparments. They made a phone call and told me they would lease me one of the condos until they could sell it. That was unheard of at the time.

So...was it just a coincidence that they opened the doors the day I was going to sign a lease with the aparment? I don't think so. I had waited months for them to open up. This series of events, although nerve wracking at the time, put me in the perfect place at the perfect time to buy the home I knew I wanted - no doubts.

That is what The Secret is all about:
Know you want - believe you will have it - and the universe will arrange it. Don't worry about how. It will just happen.

Monday, January 10, 2011

Positive Brings Positive

According to The Secret, when you feel good or positive, you bring about other events that make you feel good. For example, today I needed an oil change so I went to a car wash to get the free wash with it. I felt wonderful when I drove away in my shiny, clean car. Later, I needed strapping tape so I drove to Target and they had sweaters I needed on sale for $9 and $14. On my way through the shopping center, I decided to get a latte at Barnes and Noble with the gift card my boyfriend, The Irish Charmer, gave me. I somehow knew the book I had been waiting for would be there. Sure enough, on the way to the counter to order my drink, I walked right beside Jenn McKinlay's next cupcake baker mystery from Berkley Prime Crime called Buttercream Bump Off.

It was a great afternoon!
Try staying in a positive state of mind and see what the universe sends your way.

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

Starting The Day Off Right

This morning I started my day by listening to The Power on CD. The reminder that I am in control of my life and the possibilities are endless warms my heart. I am starting my day off with a positive attitude and my mind is searching for ways to get the best out of my day. I am also ready to list what I am grateful for on my way to work.

I am grateful for my family, my new love, my home, my career, my friends, my writing...

Saturday, January 1, 2011

The Power

Lately, I have been listening to The Power on CD. It is the sequel to The Secret. In this book, Rhonda Byrne says the Law of Attraction is really love and whatever you send out you receive back. If you are griping, you are not sending out love and therefore will get back something negative in return. If you send out positive thoughts, which are loving thoughts, you will receive back more positive situations.

Last night, I felt like I witnessed this. All day I had been sending out positive, loving thoughts. While attending a New Year's Eve party, my boyfriend and I were able to do two things we love: play pool and poker. He's better at pool and I'm better at poker. :) Although last night, my friend Dani, of the writing team Tia Dani, swept the table. At midnight, the host shot off fireworks and my boyfriend and I were able to start the New Year off with a romantic kiss. We both agree it was the best New Years. I knew on the way home that this evening was a direct result of all of the wonderful, positive thoughts we had sent out during the day.